Dear Dish-It,
My so-called get him back even though they’re a couple now? BF/F-less
Dear BF/F-L,
Yeah, it would be wrong for you to try to get your ex back now that he is dating someone else. It definitely sucks when a dating history with one of them. I can totally understand why you’re hurt, but other than it being a bit uncool in of the friendship code, you BFF and your ex haven’t done anything wrong and you really don’t have a good reason to try to split them up now.
What I’m wondering is whether your BFF knew you still had feelings for your ex and were thinking of trying to restart a relationship with him? Did you talk to her about it? If you never said anything, and she didn’t know you wanted him back, trying to steal him back from her now would make you the jerk. But if you did talk to her about it and she did know your feelings about it, I’d say she acted a bit your feelings. All you have a right to do now is decide whether she is the kind of friend you want to keep around.
If I were in your shoes, I’d talk to your BFF and try to find out exactly what went down when she hooked up with your ex. Ask her if she knew how you felt and if that was in any way a factor in her decision to start seeing your ex. If she’s truly your BFF, chances are she didn’t make this decision lightly and still does care about your feelings. If she feels any other way about it, it’s probably time to cut your losses and move on – both in of your ex and your best friend.
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