Dear Dish-It,
I’ve had a really good friend. How do I make this better?
HNH
Dear HNH,
Dealing with a jealous friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!
If you’re sure the jealousy is coming from the fact that you’ve started to become close to another girl, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.
Try not to say or do things that will make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.
It’s perfectly OK to show that you're happy about your new friendship and your life in general, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too.
Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage her aren't working, give her some time to cool off. She may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of her jealousy.
Recruit some extra for yourself, too: Another friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!
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